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Be non-confrontive if you think something is wrong. But, it's important to be interested and curious. For a lot of women, "the relationship" becomes a third party, different from the two of you. If you're not taking an interest in "the relationship" it's as though you are not taking care of your child.
The quickest way to end a war is to lose. Don't let the sun set on your wrath. Apologize if you've made a mistake. Also, apologize even if you think it's her mistake. Admit that you were wrong, and that she was right. Say it with flowers.
You could be wrong. She could be right. It may not matter. It usually doesn't.
Do not take out your problems on her. She didn't do it.
Understand if she has problems that she's taking out on you. Be strong and forgiving.
Any ten of these warning signs mean that you've had it:
Become alarmed if her face does not light up when she sees you; if her voice does not sparkle on the telephone when you call.
She stops preparing food for you.
She stops doing little things to please you.
She does things that she knows irritate you.
Her body language changes for the worse.
She changes her hairstyle.
She makes a substantial change in dress or manner.
She rejects or does not use a gift.
She becomes vague about her whereabouts and associates.
She no longer seeks your praise or approval for her actions or appearance.
She stops praising you for little things.
She can't make time for something that's important to you.
She expresses disinterest in the things that interest you.
She does not rejoice in a triumph or commiserate with a failure.
Your successes eclipse her successes; your failures endanger her welfare.
She does not reassure you when you are in doubt about yourself.
She avoids a special occasion.
She avoids your friends. and associates, or begins speaking badly of them.
She starts talking about living elsewhere.
She starts throwing out possessions.
She starts going through things as though deciding what to keep and what to leave behind.
She does not want you to be around her associates, or actively excludes you from social situations.
She exhibits alarm and chagrin if you show up unexpectedly at her workplace.
She avoids a public display of affection.
She seems annoyed if others are made aware of your affection for her.
She makes a large point of explaining ordinary events.
She makes a large point of explaining why she may have received tokens of affection from someone else.
She suddenly stops talking about a particular man while talking a good deal about everyone else.
She makes a large point of eradicating all personal debt.
She seems to avoid any further commitment in the relationship.
She comes home late and leaves early, is gone on weekends and works on holidays.
She seems to be unable to sleep.
She starts to lose weight for no reason.
She gives you pecks instead of kisses, pats instead of caresses.
She doesn't want to smear her makeup by kissing you, or muss her clothes by hugging you, or disorder her hair with a caress, or be a little late for something because you want to make love.
She seems to avoid physical intimacy.
She seems to find you physically unattractive.
She seems to be angry at you in general.
You can't seem to do anything right. She seems to despise you for your virtues and hate you for your faults.
She seems to be finding fault or picking fights over trifles.
She doesn't seem to care what you do or don't do.
She seems annoyed if you are ill.
She stops exhibiting concern for you.
She seems to have nothing to say; small talk becomes a chore; she avoids any sort of personal subject.
She finds your favorite, oft-repeated jokes and observations annoying and tedious.
She does not want to talk about her plans for the future.
She seems to display no great pleasure in your company.
She seems to be setting you up to make a substantial mistake.
She seems to be talking up the sexual allure of other women.
Her personal possessions seem to be disappearing and not coming back.
She seems just as glad if you cannot do something with her.
She doesn't seem to care if she displeases you or not.
She grudgingly does favors for you or does not do them at all.
She seems to be making herself attractive, but it doesn't seem to be aimed at you.
She is embarrassed by your appearance.
She refers to you as "he" or "him" or "his" instead of using your name when discussing you with others.
She does not forgive you when you hurt her through stupid, inconsiderate, wrong or cruel behavior.
You must not behave badly just because you think she is behaving badly. You may be mistaken in every way. Try to keep your balance; think of the future. If it's not too late, consider couple's counseling.
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